My Son Woke Up At 5 A.M. To Practice And It Changed How I Think About Motivation

Season 10, Episode 4: My Son Woke Up At 5 A.M. To Practice And It Changed How I Think About Motivation

He was up at 5 a.m., alone in the dark, running drills before middle school tryouts and he didn’t do it because I pushed him. Watching my son Eli work that hard simply because he loves basketball hit me in a way I didn’t expect, and it forced me to question my own lifelong relationship with motivation.

I share a personal story that connects my past to my present: how my early basketball drive was shaped by dysfunction at home and a need to get away, and how a “tribe” of mentors helped me channel that intensity into something productive. Then I contrast that with what I’m seeing in my kids, especially Eli, whose routine includes reading, math, and voluntary practice, and Gideon, who is just as committed but prefers to train independently. As a father and coach, I talk through the tension of staying engaged without turning effort into pressure, and why it matters to protect the fun so motivation stays healthy.

If you’re thinking about resilience, parenting, coaching, or what it looks like to build a life after grief, this conversation offers a grounded reminder: you can be driven without running from something. The same principle shows up in grief support and financial planning after loss, where the best progress happens when people feel ownership, not force.

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